Stressed home makers have turned into harsh mom’s where as working women are involved with their careers , are gentler and more lenient, as are fathers, says a survey by an education group. A survey by the Podar Institute of Education throws up some interesting figures on child-rearing in Bangalore.
Of 906 parents surveyed, 55% hit their children, with mothers spanking them more often than fathers. The figures are telling: only 22% of fathers spank their kids, while 78% mothers are slap-happy. While 4% of these mothers were found to have their own businesses, 39% were into service and 57% were homemakers. Of parents who hit their children, it was found that 28% fathers were businessmen and 72% were into service.
Women appear to take their stress out on their kids by creating a power frame to gain control. A father's absence from home due to travel or long hours at work pushes the burden of parenting on to the mother.
According to the Survey in Bangalore:
Q. Do you raise hand on your child?
- YES - 55%
Q. When do you end up hitting your kid?
- During meal time – 37%
- Homework – 15%
- While getting ready for School – 12%
- In public places – 18%
- Bedtime – 18%
Q. Do you feel guilty about raising your hand after you have done it?
- Yes – 56%
- No - 9%
- Sometimes – 35%
Q. Why do you feel like raising your hand?
- Similar parental rearing – 3%
- My child irritates me and i lose control – 59%
- This is the only way the child listens – 16%
- Other reasons – 22%
Q. What do you do after raising your hand?
- Hug your child –44%
- Give chocolates or other form of bribing –23%
- Say sorry –33%
Q. Are you aware of the effect on your child personality?
- YES – 78%
- NO – 22%
Q. Were you hit by your parents when you were a child?
- YES – 65%
- NO – 35%
Advisory for parents :
- Stop hitting your child and find real cause of your anger.
- Devise a healthy way to discipline your child.
- Take responsibilities for your choices.
- Before blaming your child introspect.
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